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Motherhood: World’s Toughest Job — Not

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Readers, Here’s a video that has gotten over 10 million hits so far:

It’s about motherhood being the hardest job at all, requiring 135 hours a week, lots of standing, very little sleeping and zero breaks.

But as “The Evil H.R. Lady” points out in this brilliant post, motherhood is not the utterly difficult, demanding, exhausting job society (and this video) paint it as. It’s only that way if we believe our kids can’t do anything safely or successfully on their own. So, says Evil H.R. Lady:

….You are doing it wrong if you never get to sit down, never get to eat lunch, and never get a break of any kind. You are not teaching your child to become an adult, you are teaching them to remain in perpetual toddler hood. This is bad parenting. I don’t know any mothers — even mothers of special needs kids — that don’t get a break. (And I will concede that some special needs kids require a tremendous amount of care from their parents–dad too!–and that may qualify as the most difficult job. But most moms have just regular kids–with problems here and there, and difficulties in different areas, but nothing requiring 24 hour nursing level care.)

Exaggerating the amount of work and expertise needed to parent not only creates guilt on the part of parents (who can live up to those expectations?). It also makes it seem like the best parents are the ones who treat their kids as helpless and endangered for as long as possible. If you believe parenting involves gradually letting go, well, gradually it gets easier.

This cult of motherhood SEEMS to venerate women, but really it is all about making them feel bad if they actually trust their kids to thrive without constant,  obsessive assistance.  - L

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Russian Ghost Car Appears Out of Nowhere (Video)

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You won’t see it coming…

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Free Speech

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I can't remember where I heard this, but someone once said that defending a position by citing free speech is sort of the ultimate concession; you're saying that the most compelling thing you can say for your position is that it's not literally illegal to express.
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Michdevilish
15 minutes ago
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Free to leave
Canada
JayM
37 minutes ago
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Shenandoah Valley, VA
wreichard
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+50,000
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aaronwe
3 hours ago
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There should be a "BUT FREE SPEECH!" corollary to Godwin's Law.
Sioux City, Iowa
mindspillage
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This was basically designed to be passive-aggressively linked to in mailing lists/forums/IRC...
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stavrosg
2 hours ago
I can't count how many times this would have been useful in the past...
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Alt text: I can't remember where I heard this, but someone once said that defending a position by citing free speech is sort of the ultimate concession; you're saying that the most compelling thing you can say for your position is that it's not literally illegal to express.
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Mobile library

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You can read more about Dashdondog Jamba and his mobile library in Mongolia, here.
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April 17, 2014

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Yip.
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satadru
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Happy Easter.
New York, NY

Google launches a modular smartphone

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jhamill
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I'd buy that for a dollar.
Ontario, California
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